In this Choices UPGRADE, Dawn Wilson explains how a simple weight loss tip helped her get a grip on habitual overeating and a lot of other addictions!
Maybe it will help you. . .
It was ridiculously simple. I was talking with the Lord about my food program, and I almost missed a quiet "suggestion."
The truth is, I wasn't praying as much as COMPLAINING.
- "Lord, I can't do this."
- "Lord, I think about chocolate all the time."
- "Lord, I always want more, more, MORE!"
Somewhere in my complaint, my words turned more desperate.
"Lord ... HELP!"
And then I heard this little voice deep within my soul.
"Do something else."
"Do what?"
"Some... Thing... Else!"
"Like eating potato chips instead of chocolate?" (I wondered if the Voice was amused?)
"No. Do something else entirely. Switch your focus."
Though I'd been struggling for months, I instantly understood what "switch your focus" meant.
Stop focusing on food. Stop focusing on stuff. Stop focusing on getting "more" of everything.
Look elsewhere. Get busy elsewhere.
Anywhere but the refrigerator and the mall.
The more I thought about it, I knew there were three ways to re-focus my attention.
1. I needed to Focus on my faithful OVERCOMER.
Instead of focusing on how overwhelmed and powerless I felt, I could gaze on the One who died to give me hope and victory over my flesh.
The first and best things I can do when tempted is to "watch and pray" (Matthew 26:41) and read or quote (memorized) scripture that applies to my temptation (Psalm 119:11).
The enemy would like me to receive and live by DEVILISH LIES: You can't win ... It's hopeless ... You're doomed to failure ... You're too weak, etc.
The truth of scripture is, "...walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh" ... "Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires" (Galatians 5:16; Romans 13:14)
Yet there is an element of truth in one of Satan's lies. I AM too weak!
Without the Lord, I can do nothing (John 15:5), but with Him, there is victory, because nothing is impossible with the Lord (Matthew 19:26). My Faithful Overcomer conquered Satan and sin, and lived a sinless life. I can be victorious because I am hidden in Him and can live by faith in Him (Colossians 3:3; Galatians 2:20).
I don't need to make "provision" for my flesh (Romans 13:14), but rather, I can "clothe myself" with Christ and consider some ways I might make "provision" to cooperate with the Holy Spirit in changing me—to "put off" some things that belong to my old sinful life and "put on" new things that align with a renewed mind and heart (Ephesians 4:22-24; Romans 12:1-2).
And that's where I move from grounding in theology to practical outworkings.
2. I needed to Focus on freeing OPTIONS.
Instead of focusing on all the things I CAN'T have and do, I could dig a little deeper and hone in on positive, healthier, life-building choices.
Dig a little deeper? How?
- I could LOOK for recipes that would nourish my body and not contribute to ill-being.
- I could SEEK new ways to exercise that I actually enjoy.
- I could FIGURE OUT how to restructure my personal spending and time management (with better stewardship of my mind, emotions, body and spirit in mind).
- I could THINK ABOUT things that bring God glory and bring me God-blessed pleasure—things that don't burden me with guilt or negative consequences. (God's original design in giving us "appetites" was good; because He wants us us to honor and enjoy Him and His blessings.)
As a simple tool, I recently created a "Do Something Else" list with ideas to help me "get up and get busy." I use it to:
Get out of the pantry;
Get off the couch and stop stuffing my face; and
"Get" (understand) what is good for me (Philippians 4:8), and pursue those things with passion!
On my list (below, right) are simple things under four headings: HOME, HEART, HEALTH and HELP.
Some are quick five- or ten-minute distractions with benefits. Others might take a little longer, but believe me, that's good when the call of the flesh is loud and strong!
I included simple things like:
- Sort Bob's (my husband's) sock drawer.
- Organize the spices.
- Start a "giveaway box" (for my local help-the-homeless ministry).
- Try on at least 10 clothing items and make a quick decision: keep, mend, give away, trash.
- Memorize a scripture verse. (I'm working on Galatians 5:1 right now.)
- Pull weeds out of my garden.
- Take in the waist on my black slacks.
- Dust my bookshelves.
- Organize around my washing machine and dryer.
- Look for a low-fat, low-sugar holiday cookie that actually tastes good.
- Write my friend with cancer who isn't going to make it.
- Wash out my dog's water bowl.
- Put seed in the bird feeder.
- Pray and search the scriptures over a pressing question.
- Wash my brush and comb.
Your list willl be different than mine. But make the list.
Then you'll have a "GO-TO" list for when you're tempted to GO TO your favorite addiction. Or to return to whenever you're distracted from making wise, godly and healthy choices. (Strive for excellence, not perfection)
3. I needed to Focus on fresh OPPORTUNITIES.
Instead of always focusing on obstacles—which actually boils down to focusing on "me, myself and I," or what Satan uses to sidetrack me—I could instead envision opportunities to do what might bless others.
I could become more sensitive to the Spirit and allow the Lord to lead me into greater love, service, ministry and encouragement. I could lift up my eyes beyond my wants and my desires to others' needs.
And then, I could ACT!
We can't do everything to deal with the world's needs. But we can all do SOMETHING.
And it's best not to wait. We don't know what tomorrow may bring. Life is short. We need to get busy, gather our resources, and "occupy" until the Lord returns (Luke 19:13).
We need to redeem the time and buy up opportunities as they come (Ephesians 5:15-16)— especially when the Lord asks us to act. (Consider James 4:12-17.)
What is God prompting you to do?
Obey quickly. Completely. Joyfully.
Since I've altered my focus, my perspective has changed. My choices have changed.
Even my bathroom scale shows the difference "do something else" can make.
Which of the "focus points" might help you today; and what would be on your "Do Something Else" list?
Dawn Wilson, founder and President of Heart Choices Today, is a speaker and author, and the 
creator of three blogs: Heart Choices Today, LOL with God (with Pam Farrel), and Upgrade with Dawn. She is a contracted researcher/reviewer for Revive Our Hearts and a writer at Crosswalk.com. She and her husband Bob live in Southern California and have two grown, married sons, three granddaughters and a rascally maltipoo, Roscoe.