Cindi McMenamin's specialty is strengthening women in their various roles. In this Attitude UPGRADE, she addresses something that holds many women back—the wrong kind of fear.
"Can fear ever be a good thing? It can," Cindi says, "but only when you are fearing the Right Thing."
I (Dawn) am a naturally fearful person, but I add my testimony to Cindi's here. Perspective is everything!
Cindi continues . . .
It occurred to me, as I was writing my book, Drama Free, that most of the drama we experience in life is a result of fear.
We tend to fear people—or circumstances—more than we fear God.
For instance, I was recently stressed out because I feared not being able to complete a deadline. But my fear was really rooted in failing to meet the expectations of others and then fearing what they would believe about me as a result.
It bothered me to realize I was fearing what people thought of me more than I feared the God who had my back and could clear my name.
And couldn’t God equip me with what I needed to meet my deadline as I surrendered it to Him?
Throughout Scripture we are instructed to fear God (Ecclesiastes 12:13).
A friend once told me:
To fear God is to have a wholesome dread of ever displeasing the Lord.
That implies a love relationship with God in which we fear disappointing Him. That results in obedience, respect of His authority, and a careful intention to not break His heart.
The Bible also tells us, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom….” (Psalm 111:10, NASB).
I’ve come to realize the opposite of wisdom is drama.
When we exercise wisdom, we use discretion and we don’t make a scene.
When we demonstrate wisdom, we don’t bring distress to others.
When we display wisdom, we are not putting ourselves on display.
If fearing the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, which negates drama, then fearing anything other than God is likely to trigger drama.
Instead of fearing God, you and I can tend to fear:
- being misunderstood
- being treated unfairly
- being embarrassed (by appearing weak or incapable)
- being rejected
- being in a situation where I am not in control (My daughter has a fear of flying because she fears not being in control. And let me tell you, she can be drama on the airplane because of it!)
Sometimes we simply fear the worst. That is still a fear of something other than God. It is giving more power to what we fear than to God, who can handle those fears.
In Exodus 14:14 we are told: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” (NIV).
That is ONE CAPABLE GOD—able to do far more than our fears, worries or drama can accomplish.
The more you and I get to know who God is and what He is capable of, the more our worries, fears, and freak-outs can be stilled.
We can be full of drama, or full of trust in an all-capable God.
I know which one I want to be.
What do you tend to fear more than God? I’d love to hear it in the comment section below.
Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and author who helps women find strength for the soul. She is the author of sixteen books, including her 
newest, Drama Free: Finding Peace When Emotions Overwhelm You, upon which this post is based. For more on her ministry, discounts on her books, or free resources to strengthen your walk with God, your marriage, or your parenting, see her website: StrengthForTheSoul.com.
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