I have no doubt Kathy Carlton Willis is qualified to teach us on the subject of disappointment in this Biblical Thinking UPGRADE. I was on her prayer team last year when she experienced what she
calls, “back-to-back-to-back disappointments.”
"I started the year in the hospital for a post-surgical infection," Kathy says. "It required additional surgery, going home with a PICC line, and a change in plans to allow time for recovery."
I (Dawn) think most of us would struggle with just that, but Kathy's tale of struggle and disappoint went on and on. And so did her commitment to deal with those struggles in a "grin with grace way.
Kathy continues . . .
I was so disappointed in how that impacted my year. I had to cancel contracts with clients and postpone a writer’s getaway.
My diet and exercise plans were on pause, too. Everything just felt off kilter.
Then, when I finally got back in the swing of things, I had four disappointments hit almost simultaneously.
- I developed a urinary tract infection that wouldn’t go away.
- The antibiotic I took for it caused a tendon injury.
- Hurricane Harvey hit.
- And if that wasn’t enough, it flooded a home we had in contract.
Notice I said, “had.” Harvey nullified the purchase.
Oh, and somewhere in all of that, I received a book rejection from a publishing house.
I’m not going to bore you with all the other commonplace disappointments, but these were the biggies!
You’ve had years like that, right? How did you handle the disappointments? Maybe you are going through a frustrating setback right now.
I’ve learned it doesn’t work to ignore the loss, and it’s not healthy to stay stalled out.
Each disappointment requires a process.
Here’s my 4-Step Process for Dealing with Disappointment.
1. Rightfully MOURN the loss.
Joy has left our hearts; our dancing has turned to mourning. (Lamentations 5:15 NLT)
Disappointments stem from losing something we had or not getting something for which we hoped. Either way, we experience sadness.
Grieving is a painful process, but if we try to avoid it, we only manage to delay healing. When we mourn, the sadness subsides, and we are ready to move on.
2. Receive more of God's COMFORT and peace.
Look up the words "comfort" and "peace" in the Bible and you’ll see it is the Holy Spirit’s role to soothe your soul. Don't feel guilty for needing it—we all do!
Will you invite God’s Spirit to embrace you, rock you, and sing songs of consolation?
All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. (2 Corinthians 1:3-4 NLT)
3. Ask God’s DIRECTION for something new or something to renew.
Once you’ve received God’s comfort, it’s time to look around to see what God has next for you, rather than continue self-reflecting.
It’s possible He will use your story to help someone else.
God helps you gain closure from your hurt so the pain no longer blinds you from your purpose.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. (Proverbs 3:5-6 NLT)
4. Move on with a RENEWED passion or project in something bigger than yourself.
There’s nothing like a new project to keep me going despite the let downs!
I anticipate seeing God at work, producing lightbulb moments.
That is why we never give up. Though our bodies are dying, our spirits are being renewed every day. For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever. (2 Corinthians 4:16-18 NLT)
These are my four steps to deal with disappointment. Which step are you ready to take?
God’s Grin Gal, Kathy Carlton Willis, shines the light on what holds you back so you can grow. She’s a speaker and author with over a thousand articles online and in
print, as well as her Bible study, Grin with Grace. She’s a bi-monthly columnist with CBN and a devotional writer for Todd Starnes. She and her husband Russ live in Texas with Jazzy, their hilarious Boston Terrier.
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