Dianne Barker speaks clearly and wisely about many of the issues women face. In this Perspective UPGRADE, she writes about the inevitable curveballs in life.
Dianne prayed: "I didn’t see that coming! Lord, is this from you?"
I (Dawn) understand curveballs—believe me. A recent unexpected medical diagnosis sent me reeling!
Dianne's wisdom about life's curveballs is excellent.
Dianne continues . . .
I thought we’d agreed on plans. Still celebrating a national bestseller, Twice Pardoned, I asked the Lord. Where do we go from here?
Without giving Him a chance to answer, I responded to my own question.
I’ll just continue writing bestsellers, of course.
Then I got this curveball.
Being a fan of baseball, I researched the meaning of curveball and learned it’s a slow pitch causing hitters to be off-balance and swing too early. An experienced pitcher using a curveball can impact the game.
You’ve seen a hitter, anticipating a fast ball, scrunch his face and sling his bat after being tricked by a curveball he didn’t expect.
The ink was barely dry on Twice Pardoned when God began leading me from a very public life as successful journalist, speaker, and bestselling author to what I now call a shrunken life.
Caring for my parents and my husband’s parents as they declined in health kept me out of the publishing loop for fifteen years. No bestsellers.
I believe in the sovereignty of God, and He used that time to draw me to himself.
Looking back, that hard place was a sweet period of my life.
During that time, I discovered a simple explanation of the word sovereignty while having a conversation with my son who was home from college for the weekend.
I don’t remember the discussion, but I must have been bombarding him with concerns and fears. He made a comment that changed my life.
“If God isn’t in control, who is?”
What I know about sovereignty:
- God IS in absolute control.
- Everything that comes to me is filtered through His loving hands.
- Whatever touches my life, He will use it for my good and His glory.
That’s what I know. And that’s truth to trust in when life throws a curveball.
When that happens, I say to self:
God must have a lot of confidence in me to trust me with this challenge.
And after sufficient grieving, I manage to praise Him in spite of my questions and fears. I don’t know the outcome, but I know the One who controls the outcome.
And He loves me.
“…I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you” (Jeremiah 31:3).
“But I trust in you, O Lord; I say, ‘You are my God.’ My times are in your hand...” (Psalm 31:14-15).
Life is unpredictable, but my response to curveballs can impact the game.
I choose to live by this decision:
“I will give to the Lord the thanks due to his righteousness, and I will sing praise to the name of the Lord, the Most High” (Psalm 7:17).
I don’t welcome curveballs. But I’m certain the Lord will lavish me with love and use my experience for good while gaining glory for Himself.
Knowing that replaces my fear with expectation.
“For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from him” (Psalm 62:5).
Let me ask:
How do you respond when life throws a curveball?
Dianne Barker is a speaker, radio host, and author of 11 books, including the best-selling Twice Pardoned and award-winning I Don’t Chase the Garbage Truck 
Down the Street in My Bathrobe Anymore! Organizing for the Maximum Life. She’s a member of Advanced Writers and Speakers Association, Christian Authors Network, and Christian Women in Media Association. Visit www.diannebarker.com.