Gathering Friends in a Post-Pandemic World

Sally Ferguson is the kind of woman you'd want for a friend: Wise, fun, and life-building. In this Friendship UPGRADE, she meets us where we are—post coronavirus and hungry to gather with friends.

"More than ever, we need connection," Sally says, "especially when it's hard with social distancing. But, women are finding creative ways to engage ladies that take us beyond covid limitations!”

I (Dawn) have sooooo missed connection with friends. Sally taps into that isolated feeling we've had and encourages ways to gather in the days ahead.

Sally continues . . .

Women’s Ministry mentor, Cyndee Ownbey says there’s a physiological response when women get together. We feel better and interact with life better.

Biblical examples of friendships include Naomi and Ruth, Jonathan and David, and Paul and Barnabas. Each relationship symbolized the camaraderie that comes with traveling through life together, and the lightened load of isolation.

When the covid lockdown began, author Kathy Carlton Willis faced the cancellation of 21 speaking engagements. Kathy pivoted to focus on coaching writers through online retreats.

The result was better than expected, and resulted in the production of a book called 7 Trials Every Woman Faces, as well as one with her WordGirls group, called Wit, Whimsy & Wisdom.

Kathy says, “I had the choice of giving up and giving in when the pandemic hit, or giving God space to reinvent my work. He didn’t change my purpose or my passion, but He gave me time to publish two books and to pour into the lives of others. The changes to my calendar didn’t mean I was closed for ministry.

“One of the special outcomes of the pandemic," she said, "is that more people are familiar with the technology of video groups and more willing to use it. Because of that, I’ve been able to meet with several different groups without even leaving home.

"7 Trials Every Woman Faces was also picked up by some small groups to do either in person with covid precautions or on Zoom.”

Zoom meetings became the new norm this past year.

While we may not be past the pandemic yet, it gave us ways to engage others.

We’ve all learned we need social interaction in order to thrive, but covid limitations continue to urge caution.

How did you swivel to meet changes this year?

We found some gals more willing to participate on Zoom from the security of their own homes. Others preferred to ride it out without the headaches of technology.

In an interview with Marnie Swedberg, Peg Arnold said the forced quarantine gave us the opportunity to reframe our perspective and learn new strategies to stay connected socially.

It reminded me of the car parades organized to celebrate birthdays, weddings, and seniors graduating from high school.

Our church’s children’s pastor planned Scavenger Hunts for families to do around town, from the safety of their own cars.

Jean Brown says, “The first hunt was Easter 2020 and went way beyond our wildest imagination. People found out about it on our Facebook page and signed up to join us, including other churches and a preschool. It became a big hit in our community as they posted enthusiastic and happy pictures.”

While Jean was brainstorming a way to follow up, she saw a shift in ministry focus to reach more than the kids, but to become family oriented with a family service and an innovative drive-thru VBS.

“We began to think outside the box," Jean says, "and now we know we can!”

Going forward, ministry leader Kathy Bruins recommends hybrid events where traditional attendance blends with live-stream viewing.

Her advice for a successful event?

• Have the recording available for 30 days to those who want to purchase it.
• Keep joy forefront (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).
• Have a mission statement to guide your event.

Remember our friends from the Bible?

• Naomi knew she needed to get to her hometown support system (Ruth 1).
• David relied on Jonathan’s insight for safety (1 Samuel 20).
• Barnabas brought Paul home to the believers’ fold (Acts 11:25-26).

There’s a common thread that says:

We need others to not just survive, but to thrive.

What will you do for your next event? Summertime brings outdoor options.

One of my favorite from years ago, was a prayer retreat at a local park. We brought sack lunches, lawn chairs, and a desire to dig into God’s Word together.

Whatever you do for your gals, make sure you:

• Follow COVID requirements with sanitizer, distancing and masks;
• Communicate safety, to put minds at ease;
• Pre-box foods and keep wrapped separately for minimal handling; and
• Bring humor.

You can instigate a fun-filled, future for your women’s group in a post-pandemic world, and reach gals who are starved for friendship. You’ll benefit, too!

How will you offer hospitality and reassurance to hurting people, while social distancing?

Sally Ferguson is a caregiver for her dad and her grands, and writing a Bible study for caregivers. She lives in western New York with her hubby of 33 years. Look for her words at EzineArticles, AlmostAnAuthor, and Upgrade with Dawn. Her coloring book, What Will I Be When I Grow Up? (Warner Press) and ebook, How to Plan a Women’s Retreat are both available on Amazon. For more information about Sally, visit her website.

Graphic adapted, courtesy of Joel Muniz at Unsplash.